BDSM is a universe where pleasure and pain intertwine. For this reason, not everyone can enter this world without being passionate about pleasure through pain. BDSM relationships present different scenarios. Indeed, just like men, women are also likely to play the role of dominatrix, as long as their partner consents. In this article, you can discover everything about female dominance and how to easily find a dominatrix.
What Is BDSM?
BDSM is an acronym that literally stands for Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and submission (commonly called Ds), and Sadomasochism (SM). Bondage is a practice that involves immobilizing a sexual partner using accessories such as handcuffs or chains.
Discipline is a partner’s obedience to their master’s orders. It involves psychological restriction supported by rules and penalties to control a partner’s movements, known as the submissive.
As for submission and domination, they refer to a partner’s desire to be dominated by one or more partners for erotic and sexual purposes. This person finds pleasure in being controlled by another person by yielding to all their desires. Moreover, sadomasochism is derived from the expressions sadism and masochism.
Sadism is when a person finds pleasure in inflicting physical or moral suffering on another. Masochism is also the search for pleasure in pain, but through complacency. This means that a masochistic person finds pleasure when they endure physical or moral suffering.
From these explanations, we can understand that BDSM encompasses a set of sexual and erotic practices. It is based on constraint, pain, erotic humiliation, and sexual fantasies.
It is used by people who are imbued with pleasure through suffering. One person is dominant and the other is submissive. To this end, rules and penalties are predefined and accepted by the parties involved.
BDSM is, above all, a sexual and erotic activity, both contractual and consensual. Sexual domination should not be synonymous with suffering for the parties involved. It is an agreement between two parties that should lead to the carnal satisfaction of each of them.
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Definition of a Dominatrix in BDSM and Her Role
BDSM is practiced by both men and women. Both men and women can find themselves in the role of dominant or submissive. Thus, a dominatrix, also called a SM mistress, is a woman who finds pleasure in dominating her partner during a power dynamic.
The mere idea of being in command is exciting for her. The Moneyslave dominatrix therefore takes pleasure in embodying the dominant role. However, simply being in charge is not enough to effectively enjoy her power of domination.
The ultimate role of a dominatrix is to render her submissive at her mercy. She must impose practices on her slave, who must execute them. The dominatrix can, for example, impose on her submissive the adoption of certain sexual positions or the wearing of an outfit that she has chosen to her taste.
The dominatrix can also choose how she decides to satisfy her partner and to what degree she wishes. However, it should be noted that this is not about mistreating her submissive. Rather, it’s about the SM mistress having authority over the submissive and controlling them.
In this sexual game, the dominatrix takes control, which allows her to feel powerful and authoritative. It’s this sensation of domination and seeing her subject obey her orders that allows her to reach the desired level of pleasure.
For the pleasure of all parties involved, the SM dominatrix must know how to behave appropriately. It’s unnecessary to leave traumatized or in a state of shock after a BDSM session.
Even though BDSM is based on pain, it also combines pleasure. Partners must enjoy suffering or suffer from pleasure.
What Accessories Can a Dominatrix Use?
There are various accessories that a domme can use. These are essential accessories that a dominatrix (beginner or experienced) can use without breaking the bank. A beginner can use the following accessories:
The candle and candlestick refer to the use of its wax and the practice called candlestick reading.
Candlestick reading is foreplay that allows the dominatrix to satisfy herself with a good dose of submission from her partner. It’s the submissive who is required to hold the candle and allows the dominatrix to read in the evening during the vigil.
As for the candle, it is useful for providing wax that the dominatrix drips in droplets on her partner’s trembling body. This practice provides a torrid and intimate atmosphere in terms of erotic games. Rest assured, the candles used in BDSM are made from medical cosmetic wax and are low temperature.
So you don’t risk extreme burns. There’s also the scarf (silk or satin) or leather mask. Their role is to mask the submissive’s face. This practice further accentuates the sensation of dominance. The dominatrix thus enjoys voyeurism and her partner’s vulnerability.
Handcuffs and restraints allow the dominatrix to make her submissive her prisoner. She feels the power to treat them as she pleases, which gives free rein to her fantasies. Depending on the intensity of the dominance and the scenario to be carried out, the domme has a choice between metal handcuffs or metal or leather restraints.
Steel handcuffs are used for “police-style interrogations”. Metal or leather restraints are generally used for medieval ecstasy enthusiasts. These objects are available in several models and ensure better comfort.
In addition, the dominatrix can use any other whipping material such as flogger straps, riding crops, and cat o’ nine tails. These objects are used to punish and frighten the submissive. She finds pleasure in offering burning and stinging caresses using these instruments.
Furthermore, in addition to the aforementioned objects, the experienced dominatrix uses the gag, which stifles her slave’s moans. It’s an adjustable leather strap that exists in different forms with a ball in the middle.
It allows humiliating the submissive and depriving them of speech. The experienced dominatrix also uses nipple clamps (for men). Indeed, these areas are very sensitive and quickly reactive.
Other accessories that an experienced BDSM Mistress can use are benches, stocks, electro-stimulators, collars, chastity belts, anal beads, and hoods. To spice up sexual life, BDSM accessories are made of soft materials that are not likely to hurt or injure.
What are the BDSM practices that a dominatrix can engage in?
The practices or games that a dominatrix can employ in BDSM are numerous. The most common practices when talking about BDSM are mainly flagellation and spanking. Flagellation involves whipping one’s partner.
It is a strong symbol of domination. It is practiced in a way that does not injure. The strikes are then tender and light. Spanking, on the other hand, involves striking the buttocks. Spanking can be done with bare hands or using instruments such as straps, whips, riding crops, or floggers.
Besides these popular practices, there is also erotic asphyxiation, which involves depriving oneself or the submissive of oxygen for pleasure. Cock and ball torture involves inflicting pain on male genitals.
This can include, for example, kicking the man’s testicles. This practice is the most widespread and is called tamakeri. The dominatrix can practice emetophilia, which is a marginal practice. It involves vomiting on oneself or vomiting on the submissive.
Another practice is sounding, which involves inserting an object into a partner’s urethra (when BDSM is practiced between women). This helps to find the “G” spot of pleasure. The domme can force her partner to insert, for example, a hat pin into their urethra.
Moreover, there are mixed games (practiced by both the dominatrix and the submissive) such as shaving hair from the head, pubic area, armpits, and even the rest of the body.
Also, among other mixed games, we note the wearing of restrictive clothing, neck braces, or corsets. We also note mummification, confinement, blackmail, staged rape, trampling on the subject’s body, chastity, exhibitionism, etc.
Role-playing games are also practiced. These include service games (where the submissive is the servant of the dominatrix), worship of the sadomasochistic mistress, transformation of the submissive into an animal. For this last point, the submissive plays the role of a dog or a cat, for example.
We also note medical role-play games (body searches, klismaphilia for example), pony play, kidnapping scenes, military or police games. Let’s remember that BDSM practices are sometimes challenging and very humiliating.
It is therefore important that the parties involved are consenting and that they show open-mindedness and “good judgment”.
Female dominatrix in BDSM: why is it a fantasy for many submissive men?
The dominance of men in bed by a woman is an unspoken fact. Many men nurture the desire to be controlled during sexual relations by a woman.
This is the whole interest for men to turn to sadomasochistic mistresses. It is noted that the men who frequent these mistresses are mostly executives and company directors.
They claim to be tired or bored with their position of authority at work. They wish to be dominated and let go to change from their routine.
Another factor would be the clothing of BDSM mistresses which is particularly exciting. The trendy attire is characterized by leather or latex, which are materials that show authority. The shine that leather and clothes leave does not leave these men indifferent.
Moreover, the professionalism of sadomasochistic mistresses is also enchanting for these gentlemen. They are innovative in terms of nude BDSM practices and show patience and investment to understand the needs of their subjects.
Simply meet a dominatrix
To easily find a dominating woman, we recommend visiting SM and BDSM community websites. They are well organized and offer you all the ideal games for your greatest pleasure. However, you must be careful not to choose unhealthy sites, as they do exist.
To help you in your choice, we suggest you consult our link to the Madintouch dominatrix site at the bottom of the page and possibly, the SM mistress classifieds on rencontretadominatrice.fr. This site has amateur and experienced dominatrices who are looking for a man for their sadistic pleasure. All you have to do is register and contact the profile of your choice.
You will thus have at your disposal a member area, private messaging, and a search engine to find all the dominas who live near you.
Outside of websites, SM mistresses are present in certain clubs. For example, it is wise for a novice to start in these clubs to better familiarize themselves with this universe and thus understand their desires and fantasies…
